I used to love talking about people's dirt. I loved to eavesdrop on conversation. I loved to spread rumours.
It's true. And I'm ashamed.
Without realising, I used to talk about my friends behind their backs. I used to pretend to be a good listener and tell others about it.
I know, my obsession in meddling in others' personal lives SUCKED, BIG TIME.
But now I learned to stop myself from involving in the bad-mouthing activity. And if I hear a rumour, I'd keep it to myself. Unless if it involves my personal space. I won't pass around the gossip of course, I'd share it with a trusty friend.
If these symptoms seem familiar to you, you'd better stop trashing your mouth. You'll hurt feelings. You'll lose friends. You won't be trusted anymore. My word of advice is, try to place yourself into that person's shoes and try to imagine what it would feel like to get hurt. I have. So STOP NOW. Caring about a friend and listening to a rumour is two TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS!
And if you are about to hear 'something-something' about certain someone, stop your friend and say you don't want to be a part of it. If it's too late, keep the info to yourself and yourself ONLY.
Oh, one last tip. DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING people told you about another 'she' or 'he'. It is ALWAYS FALSE and ALWAYS MIXED + ADDED UP. It might not sound exactly like the way you heard it. Don't believe in others' words unless you've witnessed, experienced and found it is true yourself!
Hear me out. Been there, done that. Don't get entangled in all of this. Though it might be fun for the first few moments, it will turn into a disaster later on and WILL HAUNT you for the rest of your lives. Trust me. Don't gossip around.
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My advice, don't listen. Just read. Like the news, don't listen to it, just read the news. : )
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